My Own Blog Story

Well, now I can mention that I am a contributing blogger for Perfectweddingguides.com.  It’s a wonderful gig as I get to chit chat about wedding related stuff.

Aside from that, I am also a blogger for Californiawinepad.com and still have my other site UrbanKitchenSurvival.com

Please don’t forget, I am now on my permanent site OneSteptoWedding.com


This only pertains for the website:  www.onesteptowedding.com

Attention All Brides!!!!!  I want to make your time here at One Step to Wedding more enjoyable and entertaining as well.

I have many friends in the wedding industry who are vendors and have plenty of knowledge in their respected fields.  I have invited them to share stories, information, tips, and trends, from their own experience. I respect their work and I’m sure you will also come to agree that their quality and value are quite exceptional.

Please look forward to future blogs and will be placed under the category “Featured Vendors”.

For vendors who are would also like to contribute or have questions, please feel free to contact me on the contact page or email me at: onesteptowedding@gmail.com

It’s been in the process, a fast one at that, to create my website.  Don’t be alarmed, it’s still in the works.  I will have more information, tips, and opportunities.

You may still visit this blog while it’s in process, but you may certainly check out: www.onesteptowedding.com

I hope you enjoy and I am very much open to your thoughts and opinions.

Thank you

The Last Name Game

Remember when you were dating your now your soon-to-be husband and you always doodled “Mrs.______” ? You always wanted to practice signing your new name.  There are now so many options with how to play with your last name once you become a Mrs. Of course, it is a sign of your commitment and honor to your spouse.  But not taking his name doesn’t mean you don’t honor him  less.  The question of taking your spouse’s name comes up on the day you fill out your marriage license.  On it, there’s a box that asks you what you want to change your name to after you get married.

From my experience, I initially did the hyphenated name on my marriage license and chose to keep my maiden name after I got married.  Not that I didn’t like my husband’s last name, but I think that my name is unique because it starts with the letter “Z”.  I decided to keep my name for many reasons; I got my college diploma with that name, less of a hassle to change all legal documents with that name, and you are already known by that name with your collegues and past aquaintences, just in case someone was trying to locate you.

With more and more career-oriented women getting married, many have opted to keep their maiden name.  It’s their identity and they associate that with their accomplishments.  It’s a way of maintaining their professional structure seperate from their personal life.  And like I mentioned, it’s less of a hassle to change legal documents.

But if you wanted to change your name, it’s advised to use your maiden name as your middle name and have your married name as your last name.  This would make the transition on your documents easier, especially if your passport or license hasn’t expired & doesn’t need to be renewed yet.  It states your maiden name and it would be a given that you got married (stated on both your passport and identification card).  The benefits of this tip are you can have both your names and this will save you some cash.

The option of hyphenating your name is almost like changing your last name all together.  You do have to get your legal documents changed right away.  It’s different, not an addition to, like the previous mentioned.  I’m not sure why hyphenated names became so popular, but I think it was a way to keep their name  & to honor their husbands by taking their name.  The downfalls of this besides changing all the legal documents…..people will almost never get your last name right.  They will say one name, leave the other and it’s also a handful to say your last name.  A trend related to this hyphenated name change is for both husband and wife to have both the hyphenated name, so it’s equal.  You do have that option and you must also state that in your marriage license.

If you are dreading changing your name, there are services offered such as Ms. Now Mrs.. It’s easy to use an saves you from a lot of headache.  There are other similar websites out there that can also assist you.  They use a data base that transfers the name at once. But if you want to do all the changing yourself you have to see the following: DMV, Social Security, the US Postal Service, change your passport, the bank, your HR department, life insurance and financial policies, and the list goes on.

If you appreciate good wine, you may want to consider serving wine at your wedding.  You may have wine options at your perspective venue, and you may want to ask your catering or restaurant manager if they can refer a wine expert, vendor, or staff sommelier to work with you.  You might want to request a wine tasting along with your food tasting.  If that’s not available, speak to them about what options are available to you for selecting your wine.

Here are some options to ensure you will have a great choice of wine for your event:

  • You should ask your catering manager if you can supply of a case(s) of your favorite wine to serve.
  • If you don’t like your venue’s wine list, ask your catering or restaurant manager if they have a wine list you can order from, maybe something to your liking.

Here are some things to consider regarding budget for wine:

  • You have to be sure about how many bottles you should order.  This is the approximate about a person consumes during the cocktail, dinner, and reception, about five glasses per person.
  • A money saving idea is instead of a full bar, just consider serving wine; red, white, & Champagne.

Here are some ideas for wine at your reception:

  • If you are hosting your own wedding reception in a backyard, which I think is a great idea, you can create your own bar and also serve your choice of wine.  You can also rent wine glasses when you rent your chinaware as party-rental companies are ready to serve you.
  • Consider having a destination wedding at a winery.  You have the setting of grapevines in the background, the wine cellar for unique pictures, and wine all around you and your guests.  It will very memorable and romantic, especially during the sunset.  You also don’t have to worry about choosing your wine because you would have already chosen the winery that makes your wine.

Recommendations for wine:

Wines friendly for your budget; Try having a lighter red wine, such as a Rose, and a Riesling. You want to be able to have wines versatile for most entrees. Also, instead of Champagne, you can opt for a sparkling wine.

The culture of the wedding registry is changing and evolving to the couple’s needs.  There are plenty of options now for the couple to create the registry in the store or online.  Also, the rules of the registry have also changed.

Traditionally, when you create a registry, you pick out chinaware and glassware, among a few gifts, for your formal dining.  There are beautiful patterns and designs of china by favorite designers such as Vera Wang, Kate Spade, and Martha Stewart to name a few.  They still have those service options available for you at department stores such as Bloomingdale’s and Macy’s.

The current trends for registry are continually ever changing to the couples needs.  The couple should start with having a ”Gameplan”.

  • Couples should think about for the present and the future.  Think about your needs as it changes when you have a family.
  • Couples should have a wide range of products and stores.  This allows for variety and availability for your guests to shop.  Also consider an online store, just in case your guests don’t like to step into a store.
  • Couples should think about a price range for the registry. They should be mindful to their guests budgets also, as it might be uncomfortable to come empty handed. This makes it possible for your guests to shop for smaller items if they cannot afford the big-ticket items.

Here are other options for a registry:

  • Sign up for a honeymoon registry or have your guests chip in for a honeymoon.
  • If you don’t need any items for your house, then consider having your guests donate to a charity of your choice.
  • If you need money for home-improvement or materials for building, ask for Home Depot or Lowe’s gift cards.
  • Inquire about setting up a registry for cooking classes.
  • If you need the money for future goods, but don’t have a house or a design pallet yet, you might want to think about just requesting gift cards for Target, Walmart, or other big stores around you neighborhood.

When you’re ready to choose your cake, and you have a design in mind, you may have to consider the season, especially the summer.  Even if you’re having your reception indoors, the heat can affect the look of your cake. So here are some tips that you can take with you when you choose your cake.

In the summer, choose icing that can withstand heat.  The best choices are Fondant (sugar paste) and Marzipan (almond paste).  They actually do better at room temperature rather than colder refrigerated temperature.  Fondant is easy to decorate and design with.  You can have it in different colors and it’s easy to make bows with (in the cake).  This has been one of the most popular mediums to use presently on wedding cakes.  The downside of fondant is people usually don’t like the taste of it and they usually just move it off the cake when they eat it.  The taste is described as sweet and bitter, well it’s complicated, but you should just try it at least once to know if you like it.  Marzipan, on the otherhand, has most of the functions as fondant, but tastes better.

If taste is an issue with you, then buttercream might be your choice.  The fact is, they will not do well on a hot day.  The icing can melt if you leave it out for a few hours. If you keep it refrigerated until up to one to two hours before the cake cutting, you should be fine.  Your baker should be able to give you advice on how to handle the cake.

Whichever icing you choose for your cake, keep it out of direct sunlight!